Our First Secret of the
7 Secrets To
"Creating an everlasting love"
is being able to
Let go of yourself.
Letting go of self is a characteristic that few people can truly do.
Letting go means that you are looking out for the good of others
before looking out for yourself. 
In this world we live in, we’ve always been taught to look out for number one!

Well that may work in a situation that is life threatening, but shouldn’t be the basis of a marriage relationship

We’re going to share with you steps you can take to learn how to let go of yourself.  This will help put you in a position where your wife will cling to you in a more loving way.  People will actually flock to you, because you’ll be that special type of friend that is hard to find these days.  You’ll find people starting to look up to you and admiring what a wonderful person you’ve come to be.  Don’t you think your spouse will be extremely happy to know that they have decided to be a part of your life?

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Here are the Steps to letting go of your self.  Practice these on a daily basis.

• First.  Let go of the need to win. 

Marriage is about embracing the person as a whole package, and remembering that you don’t have to be competitive in your thoughts, and in the way you treat each other.  Letting go of the need to win frees up the ability to work together as a team.

• Next, Let go of the need to be self-fulfilling. 

You should not only look into your own interests, but also to the interests of others, such as financial affairs, property, family, health, reputation, education, success, and even happiness.  Seeing others they way they are, and being open to their needs leaves out the me me me part of the equation, and allows you to see the world in a truly new perspective.

• Next, Let go of the need to be offended.

Forgive those that have offended you, release them, and never let it bother you again.  Your spouse will love the opportunity to be open with you without having the fear of offending you.

• Next, Let go of your need to be right. 

High esteem of your own ideas is the source of a lot of conflict and dissension as it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong.  This will help build your confidence to pursue more advanced relationships in your marriage, and in your life. 

• Next, Let go of your need to be superior. 

When you project feelings of superiority that’s what you get back, leading to resentments and ultimately hostile feelings.  How can you build a lasting relationship with the foundational thoughts that one is better than the other? 

• Next Let go of your need to have more. 

We’re never satisfied.  Ironically, when you stop needing more, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life.  Realize that whatever you have in your spouse is enough for your satisfaction.  Go back to that time, and review the traits that made you feel like your spouse was all you ever needed. 

• Next Let go of the need to identify yourself on the basis of your achievements.

You’re not this body and its accomplishments.  You are the observer.  Notice it all; and be grateful for the abilities you’ve accumulated.  The less you need to take credit for your achievements, the more connected you stay to the power of creation.  You will feel content with yourself, and be able to release a lot of the stress that has been following you around.  This will make the time with your spouse even more rewarding and fun.

• Finally, Let go of the need to rely on your reputation. 

Your reputation is not located in you.  It resides in the minds of others.  Therefore, you have no control over it at all.  Your spouse is more concerned about your character than they are about your reputation.

Christ loved us and died for us.  He forgave us and accepted us, justified us and gave us eternal life.  He made us heirs of the world when he owed us nothing. He treated us as worthy of his service, when we were not worthy of his service. He took thought not only for his own interests but for ours. He counted us as greater than himself: “Who is the greater,” he said, “one who reclines at table or one who serves? Is it not the one who reclines at table? But I am among you as the one who serves” (Luke 22:27).

Accept your spouse as a unique individual.  They are someone whom you have vowed to love and take care for the rest of your life.  You will not only be rewarded with a happy marriage, but also rewarded with the wisdom of how God intended marriages to be.
Are you willing to deny yourself over and over?  Are you willing to take thought for others interest instead of your own?

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